Hi, I want to add a little story a very silly trigger I’ve got. Because for real, it was due to the most minor ~trauma~ possible, but it still had very clear aftereffects. I hope that hearing this helps someone know that whatever their own thing is, no matter how trivial sounding even to yourself, it still counts as “bad enough”, whatever that means, for them to get help.
The sound of Velcro opening feels worse to hear than nails on a chalkboard. I genuinely thought everyone felt this way and was putting up with it in coats/shoes/etc for convenience, and the reason it wasn’t a saying is because it was a space age material, much younger than literal chalk, so why would it be used when we already had a literary device for this feeling? Turns out that was a trigger for me and literally no one else thinks of it like that!
Took a few months after we realized that I was perceiving the world differently than everyone on the planet for my mom to be the one who figured out why.
Some times, very rarely, as an infant my mother couldn’t get to me “fast enough” to comfort me. That’s it! That’s literally it! And the reason? She’s disabled, and wears hand braces at night to help support her wrists. But they also mean she can’t really use her hands, and when I was little her braces had like a thousand rows of velcro: so as an infant, all I knew was that the only times I cried out and was “ignored” were accompanied by the sound of my mother opening up her braces so she could come pick me up.
Seriously, you can have the best parents and childhood in the world and still come out with random trauma because of it! And guess what? Doesn’t matter how minor it was, it still registered as trauma to my tiny brain, and talking about it in therapy was so bizarre, like, worst crying I’ve ever done in therapy?? But it helped, and the sound of velcro is still nothing I like, but it’s way more tolerable now.
However small you think “it” was for you, whatever “it” is, or even if you have no idea what “it” could possibly be!, that was still enough and you should have support.